The babble of a middle-aged lunatic.
Profiling a Pedophile
Published on October 6, 2006 By Xythe In Current Events
Pedophiles can be anybody. The geek that sits behind you at the cyber café; The judge adjudicating your traffic ticket; The sweet young blonde that always has a bit of chit-chat for you when you stop to get your daily cup of coffee; The doctor checking your prostate or performing your breast exam; Black, white, young, old, rich, poor, anybody. Most pedophiles do however share a certain set of common characteristics that compliments their deviant sexual behaviors.

Pedophiles tend to be middle-aged males without a criminal record. Female pedophiles generally perform their corruption with a male counterpart. They are often well educated and pious, and are generally well accepted by the community who tend to trust and respect them, and are popular with adults as well as children. They often are hard working, and prefer jobs that put them in close proximity to, or directly in contact with children.

Pedophiles often date women who have the type of children he desires. If a pedophile marries, the relationship is often corrupt with sexual dysfunction. A married pedophile is merely camouflaging his true colors in order to detract attention to his true desire - children

Pedophiles mainly interact with children because they feel more comfortable with them. They prey on shy and vulnerable children or children in need, and tend toward pubescent girls and boys. They befriend their child victims with kindness, and seek to take them on “special trips”; amusement parks, zoos, musical events, ice cream shops, the movies, the beach, and other such destinations palatable to children. Thus they befriend their victims and seduce theses trusting children to places where they can be alone with them, often time to the predator’s liar.

A pedophiles’ lair typically contains a “special room” suited with a child-like décor. It is here where the they lavish children with deserts, toys and video games, computers, swimming pools, or anything that attracts children back into their liars. This is where these deviants reinforce trust and respect with their child victims by close interaction, and advising these vulnerable children with their home, school, and friend problems.

Pedophiles rarely force or coerce children into sex, but rather by careful manipulation and seduction. They will tell a child she is mature for her age, or that he is special in order to build up his victims self esteem. Sexual contact progresses in subtle increments starting with friendly touches on a shoulder, hugs, playful pats on the butt, then kissing and finally to their ultimate goal. The pedophiles distorted philosophy is that they care for and love their child victims, and feel they must do their best to keep them from “harm”. As a result, it is not uncommon for their victims to develop deep feelings for their abuser, and they often seek their approval. It is for these reasons it is very difficult to catch these sexual predators.


What eventually happens is, as victims of pedophiles grow older they come to realize that what they are doing or have done is morally corrupt and unlawful. Typically, pedophiles are not brought to justice unless one of its victims comes “out of the closet”.

Pedophilia is cannot be cured but can be treated in the hopes of rehabilitating their deep-rooted psychological issues. However, statistics show these criminals usually revert back into their deviant sexual behavior time and time again.

It is this author’s opinion that pedophiles are the most despicable sexual criminals in the world today.

Comments
on Oct 06, 2006
Did I miss anything?
on Oct 06, 2006
I have a few questions...

First, is this your work?

Second, if so where do you get your facts?

Third, I found this to be an interesting article, though in all the cases I've known (and there are a lot) the location doesn't seem to fit. Not to say its not totally valid..for instance, a lot of it occurs in the home of the child...by a trusted uncle spending the night, a dad, or as was my experience, with babysitters.

Perhaps the difference is a "professional" child molester as opposed to a familiar one. Professional meaning a stranger strikes up a relationship with parents solely for access to the kids. The familiar meaning, the kid is already in their lives and they get an opportunity and take it. The second of course requires less work and probably less intelligence..though anyone who would do this doesn't strike me as overly bright.

Both are revolting imho.
on Oct 06, 2006
...I found this to be an interesting article


I'm glad you liked it

First, is this your work?


Yes, and required about 4 hours to put together, and was prompted by several articles written recently from JU.

Second, if so where do you get your facts?


Mostly from various publications offered by the California Department of Justice.

Third, I found this to be an interesting article, though in all the cases I've known (and there are a lot) the location doesn't seem to fit. Not to say its not totally valid..for instance, a lot of it occurs in the home of the child...by a trusted uncle spending the night, a dad, or as was my experience, with babysitters.


Your speaking mostly of child molestation. Anybody that touches a child is guilty of child molestation. Pedofilia is an actual disorder, and meet a different set of criteria. You can see the comparison by clicking here>WWW Link

on Oct 06, 2006
Thanks for the link.

I don't know why (except possibly for legal reasons) there is a distinction between a pedophile and molester.

The article states...

To be diagnosed with pedophilia, a person must:

-be sexually aroused by, have intense, recurring sexual fantasies of, or be involved in sexual behavior with a prepubescent child or children (generally 13 years or younger);
-be aroused by, have sexual fantasies of, or be involved with a child for at least six months.;
-be at least 16 years old, and
-be at least five years older than the child or children he or she is attracted to.

I think this is semantics really. By this definition a man who is thirty that has sex with a eight year old girl for five months ISN'T a pedophile.

I really don't know why its important to separate the two....any thoughts about that?



on Oct 06, 2006
Pedophiles tend to me middle-aged males without a criminal record


i hope that wasn't freudian, man....lol j/k
on Oct 06, 2006
Pedophiles rarely force or coerce children into sex, but rather by careful manipulation and seduction.

that is something a lot of people don't realize and it is true to a point. there is a big exception when it comes to "pedophile rapists" who abduct children and rape, sometimes killing them. like with jessica lunsford.

the one case that still baffles me is the smart case from a few years ago. that girl showed no signs of being traumatized. in fact she and her family were pushing for her to play herself in a tv movie that was being discussed. i can't imagine that a young girl would desire reliving that in any way, shape or form. i am not drawing any conclusions by that, it just puzzles me that neither her or her family seem to be doing the normal things that people do after such an event /abduction.

on Oct 06, 2006
I don't know why (except possibly for legal reasons) there is a distinction between a pedophile and molester.


Not so much legal, but rather clinical/medical.

I really don't know why its important to separate the two....any thoughts about that?


The distinction is as I see it, a child molester can be a any person who for whatever reason touches a child inappropriately, (not necessarily intercourse), where pedofiles have a distinct psychological pathology.
on Oct 06, 2006
i hope that wasn't freudian, man....lol j/k


Tee hee. Thanks for picking that up Sean, I appreciate it. I'm a fonetick tipest and the worlds crappiest college grad speller. Also, it's not the best thing to proof your own writing.
on Oct 06, 2006
the one case that still baffles me is the smart case from a few years ago. that girl showed no signs of being traumatized.


Because to some victims, its normal. They think nothing of it, thus, no trauma.

Thats really part of why pedophilia is so horrible. This particular victim was not only physically abused, but mantally brainwashed into thinking nothing was wrong. She loved the guy like a parent. Oh, she was traumatized alright, she just didn't know it.
on Oct 06, 2006

The distinction is as I see it, a child molester can be a any person who for whatever reason touches a child inappropriately, (not necessarily intercourse), where pedofiles have a distinct psychological pathology

Oh I see now..clinical reasons makes more sense.

To me though someone has to be a bit nutty to do things like that to kids.

As for how victims react to it.  I was molested as a kid and so was my sister.  It doesn't have the hold over  my life like it does over hers.  I think it has a lot to do with my faith, but even before that I resolved in my mind not to let it control me.  I am not making light of it.  It affected me until my early twenties when I decided I was done carrying it...and then my walk with God really cut the strings to it.

I don't think there is any "right" way to resond.  And while I don't understand wanting your kidnapped child to star in the movie, heh, maybe she's a tough bird and WANTS to do it to help understand the event better...who knows.

I think though, if it doesn't bother her, then it probably shouldn't bother me.  She is more likely to know what she needs than I do.

 

on Oct 06, 2006
You reveal a little more of who you are. But parts that I can and do respect. I have no comment as I am so hopelessly out of my league here. But thanks for sharing.
on Oct 06, 2006
Very insightful article. Thankyou for writing it, it helps to make people aware of that the danger is always there from those you least expect.
on Oct 06, 2006
To me though someone has to be a bit nutty to do things like that to kids.


Absolutely and without a doubt. The main difference: Sometimes "normal" people can have a momentary lapse in reason, while others are permanently "warped".

I was molested as a kid and so was my sister.


I'm very sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to the both of you

It doesn't have the hold over my life like it does over hers.


These situations react differently on an individual basis. I'm not a professional in this respect, however , I believe its intrinsic that men and women would react differently not so much in severity, but in the way these adverse feelings manifest and how they are dealt with. I know men who suffer dearly and women who seem to have come to terms with their abusive past and vias-versa.

and then my walk with God really cut the strings to it.


Amen
on Oct 06, 2006
Reply By: Dr. GuyPosted: Friday, October 06, 2006You reveal a little more of who you are. But parts that I can and do respect. I have no comment as I am so hopelessly out of my league here. But thanks for sharing.


Thanks Doc, that means a lot coming from the "top dog" I figured I'd put a little effort in and try to get an article on the JU home page. BTW, what does it take to get an article there? I mean is there some set of criteria, or is it favoritism, or just whatever the admins feel should be there?

Anyway, a lot has been said pedophiles recently with the "Foley" ordeal and all. I'm not very good on politics, so I did not leave a post on any of those threads...didnt want people thinking I was a moron or whatever. Anyway, I did not care to see this man being referred to as a pedophile, simply because he does not fit the profile. Thats what inspired this one.

Very insightful article. Thankyou for writing it, it helps to make people aware of that the danger is always there from those you least expect.


Thanks Jen
on Oct 07, 2006
I did not mention that pedophiles almost always have a stack of porn in their lair. I dont suppose anybody would admit of having any porn on their PC knowing this.